You Are What You Love: 4 Big Takeaways

You Are What You Love: 4 Big Takeaways

Here are four big ideas the TC Christian staff pulled out from the book that might help you in your life and also help within your kids’ lives as you think about your habits and loves:

1. Form/Reform, don’t inform:

Families, churches, and schools should seek to not just inform minds, but to form habits. It is not enough to just know the right words or the think the right thoughts. Being agents of change and renewal means taking an active role. This process has two main parts: imitation and practice. People learn habits through imitation: from their parents, teachers, or friends. Through that imitation, those habits are then practiced until the become natural to do.

As a school, we seek to partner with the parents in ensuring there are good habits/practices being instilled within the students. We are working on developing throughlines at TCCS that are put throughout our curriculum to help with this practice aspect: We are working on intentionally putting in ways for students to practice the following: Serving Living, Wisdom Discerning, Creation Keeping, Beauty Creating, Justice Seeking, Community Building.

Look to set up positive habits within your family in order to form/reform the practices to better align to what your innermost longings.

2. Keep focused on the purpose:

There is a story of two stone cutters and each one is asked what they are doing. The first replies “I am cutting this stone in a perfectly square shape” the other responds “I am building a cathedral.”

These two cutters had the same task, but viewed their work and purpose in completely different ways. We cannot forget that the even the little, day to day tasks can and do make a difference in building God’s Kingdom. Small habits can have big implications.

A good way to think about this is to ask yourself “What is my deep hope for ________?” And fill in the blank. What is my deep hope for...my life, my family, my job....This will put a bigger picture in front of you as you seek to fulfill that hope.

3. Self-reflect:

It is important to recognize that one’s own formation is never final. There is never going to be a day where we all of a sudden have it all figured out. By reflecting on our own practices and also being aware of the various rival cultural liturgies that might be forming us in ways we do not intend to be formed, we can be see where our heart is.

Spend 5 minutes each day to assess some of the practices that are within your life. Are they helping to reach your innermost longing?

4. Practice within community:

If you want to be part of the reforming process, there are practical, communal ways in which these can be done with others. Smith outlines the following four practices: eating together, praying together, singing together, and thinking/reading together. As simple as these might be, they can have a big impact on your immediate family, group of friends, or co-workers.

So let’s be intentional about the messages we convey to our kids. What do they see when they enter the classroom? Your house? What do they hear as a meal begins? What do they hear during a meal? What opportunities do they have to self-reflect? What opportunities do they have to be doers of the word?

TwT: Are You Sure?

Tuesdays with Tyler

At Traverse City Christian School, we are starting a new weekly mode of communication called "Tuesdays with Tyler".

TwT is one of the many ways TCCS seeks to partner with the greater community.

These videos will be a way to continue the purpose of TCCS: Glorifying God, Partnering with Parents and Equipping Students to Transform the World For Jesus Christ.

It has a simple purpose: Connect and Communicate.

Topics may range from books I’ve read, current/relevant educational topics, cultural topics relevant to kids. All with the purpose to connect and communicate relevant topics in the hopes to equip those who listen with tools or nuggets to think about.

Below is a video of the first TwT: Are You Sure? along with a rough transcript of the talk.

Enjoy!

Are You Sure?

A couple questions for you...

“What do you want?” (p. 1)

“Are you confident that what you think you love aligns with your innermost longings?” (29)

“What are the things/practices you do that do something to you?” (55)

These are just some of the questions that James K. A. Smith addresses in his book You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit. The TC Christian staff read this book in preparation for our in-service week at the beginning of the school year, where we spent a morning unpacking many of the topics that come up within the book. It was an excellent time sharing and growing together as we discussed the book.

Within the book, Smith asks the readers to evaluate what sort of practices and habits are in our lives. Whether we are aware of it or not, these practices are shaping who we are. The habits in school, our daily routines, church services, and our homes all contribute to a reflection of what we desire and love. These locations are all “little kingdoms” that each convey their own message. Whether we are conscious of it or not, each of them shape who we are.

As Christians, we seek to further develop our relationship with Christ, encourage the same with those around us, and be doers of the word. However, there are many “rival liturgies” that vie for our allegiances. The culture around us is set up to appeal to many of our longings. For example, we can seek to find a “new self” at the mall or find belonging with a certain sports team. Now, neither of these things are bad, don’t get me wrong. I enjoy sports and can get deeply passionate into a game or team (Go Twins!) but we do need to do a self-check at times to see what these events are doing to us. What practices of the mall are shaping us to be someone we do not want to be? What ideas surrounding sporting events are changing the way we prioritize our life?

Be on the lookout in coming weeks for additional takeaways from this book on Tuesdays with Tyler.

TCCS Opening Chapel: Live Loved

The following is the outline used for the opening day chapel for MS/HS students at Traverse City Christian School on Tuesday, Sept 5, 2017.

Theme: Live Loved

Start with a simple analogy of the Gospel message:

Volunteers; 3; Each need a pencil

2nd and 3rd: break pencil

3rd: sharpen pencil

God’s intention: good pencil

Fall: broken pencil

Redemption: Jesus sent to save

Restoration: Work is ongoing, we are part of the process

How can we be a part of that restoration? 3 phrases to remember

#1

“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!” 1 John 3:1

Response: How _______ is the  _______ that __________ lavished on ______ that _____ should be called _____ of God. 

Despite our brokenness (pencil); We have worth, we are made in God’s image, he has a plan for our life.

Everyone out loud: “Recognize God’s Love”

#2

 “Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God” 1 Peter 2:17

Proper respect to ___________.

Parents, friends, not your friends, siblings, teachers, Mr. Van Schepen

Every interaction is an opportunity from God

Say “hi”, “Thank you”...recognize people; they are worthy and deserve your respect.

Out loud: “Respect everyone, always”

#3

In a Pit With a Lion; Story of Benaiah; P. 173

One step closer; Not living out of fear

We cannot plan for what God puts in front of us. When we see it, we need to go for it, even if chasing seems odd to others.

Seniors; big opportunities for you soon. 

Out loud: “Chase the opportunities”

Summary

Recap the 3:

Recognize God’s Love

Respect everyone, always.

Chase the opportunities

TVS Deep Hope for TCCS Students:

“A community that, despite your brokenness, recognizes God’s love for you, and in turn sees your interactions with friends, classmates, teachers, parents, siblings, and people on the street as opportunities to take a next step in restoring what is broken. “

A New Chapter

8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD.

9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.

-Isaiah 55:8-9

611 miles. One full U-Haul and three packed vehicles all in a caravan.

That was the scene in mid-June as we packed up from our previous residence in Pella, IA to settle into our new home in Traverse City, MI. 

Moving to a unfamiliar setting to both my wife and I, with no personal connections for either of us, this would be a move where we would feel both excitement and anxiety in the unknown. We would be stretched, exposing ourselves to some vulnerability. 


In the weeks post-move, the feelings that we anticipated and felt as we moved, uncomfortableness and vulnerability, continued popping up through conversations, books, and words from others as ways in which we as Christians are called to live. Below is a small sample of quotes, from the past two months:

"Move into uncomfortable territory and seek to understand each other." 

"Don't ignore people's struggles, show up for each other." 

"Transparency and vulnerability as a leader opens up the same within those around you." 

"Be willing to do uncomfortable things, in fact, choose to do uncomfortable things"  

"We are called to bear each other's burdens, not in our free time, but in our daily lives. Part of bearing another's burden is having it be a burden for ourselves as well." 

None of these are necessarily easy things to do, but as relational beings, they are, nonetheless, actions we are called to do. 

We are thankful for where God has led us at this particular time in our lives! We continue to seek out the next right step as we encounter and discern God's plan.

"We need to trust God's storytelling, He has a better story than we could ever script" 
-Bill Hybels

In a Pit...

In a Pit...

Devotional inspired by the book In a Pit With a Lion on a Snowy Day by Mark Batterson and written for staff devotions at PCGS on 1/18/17.

“There was also Benaiah son of Jehoiada, a valiant warrior from Kabzeel. He did many heroic deeds, which included killing two of Moab’s mightiest warriors. Another time he chased a lion down into a pit. Then, despite the snow and slippery ground he caught the lion and killed it. Another time, armed only with a club, he willed a great Egyptian warrior who was armed with a spear. Benaiah wrenched the spear from the Egyptian’s hand and killed him with it.“ (2 Samuel 23:20-21

Chasing down a lion into a pit. Then, despite the snow and slippery ground, catching the lion and killing it.  Not a scene you see every day, but for Benaiah, a scene that eventually helped vault him into becoming in charge of King David’s body guard and be considered one of David’s mighty men. Benaiah was very likely quite scared of this lion, as he should be, but despite the uncertainty, he still chased after his fear and knew what had to be done with the opportunity that was facing him.

There are going to be figurative “lions” in everyone’s lives; tough situations that we face or go through. They might be situations at school, home, or within the community; tough interactions with a friend, family member, or co-worker; or maybe a nudging to do something drastically different than the current setting you are serving in. Maybe you have faced some big lions in your life already and are wondering when the next one will be coming around the corner. Whatever your life story, realize that these lions are opportunities where God can use you in ways that he has already been preparing you for. He is always using our past experiences to prepare us for the future work he has in store for us. Don’t be discouraged by these opportunities, but instead seek to find what God is teaching you through them.

Prayer:

Lord, we do not always understand the purpose of a certain situation. Forgive us when we think only of ourselves and not what you may be teaching us through the opportunity. Give us clear eyes to see the work you are calling us to do each day and the courage to take the step when we feel uncertain.

I Used to Think...

This post stems from a reflective writing assignment in my current graduate course, EDUC 564: Management and School Improvement. These are 3 "I used to think...but now..." statements related to education based on my observations over time.

I Used to Think…

1. I used to think having a staff of like-minded individuals would be the best culture for a school, but now I see the value in having a staff of differing backgrounds, personalities, and viewpoints. All the staff members should be in agreement with the mission of the school, but beyond that, there is high value in having a diverse group of teachers within a building. Before, I thought conflict should be avoided, as it can cause divisions and damage relationships. However, by having a staff that embraces that tension through their different views and perspectives will also allow for conversations that deepen the school and provide for growth. A well balanced staff lends itself to using the gifts of the staff members to further its mission. By having a well rounded skill set, a school can continue to move forward instead of lacking in one area or needed to look outside for help.

2. I used to think giving a letter grade was an accurate report of a student’s learning, but now I see the value in crafting proper feedback for students and parents and measuring learning against specific standards and learning targets. Giving an A, B, C etc... has long been the standard of reporting student learning within school systems. It is a comfortable way to report grades as it gives parents, who had the same grading system, a standard to measure by from when they were in school. I now see that these letter grades often do not have much meaning to them and are too rigid. Learning is a process and involves many different topics within a particular subject area. Receiving a B+ in Math on a report card says nothing about a student’s understanding of fractions, ratios, or algebraic expressions.

3. I used to think the staff members within the school were the primary skilled knowledge kits, musicians, performers, creators, and leaders for the students, but now I see how gifted students are in many areas, starting at a very young age. With the technology and opportunities available for students to have their hands on, students have become increasingly skilled and at times far surpass the abilities of their teachers. Whether it is a middle school praise band leading chapel, a 3rd grade student showing off his 3-D printed object, or a 7th grader showing a teacher how to program a robot, students have become more and more knowledgeable about an array of topics. It creates a shift that teachers need to have in their minds, with an increased focus on guiding students in their knowledge to help them process and prioritize the information available to them. Instead of taking just the role of presenter of knowledge, a teacher and school also increasingly becomes a facilitator of knowledge, recognizing the importance of providing different learning experiences for students to be involved with.